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Confidence & Support – A Symbiotic Relationship

Confidence is something that does not come easily for many people.   The more and more I return to myself physically and emotionally – the more confidence I find. I know what I am capable of, and what I have difficulty with. I also know now more than ever that I can accomplish anything I am passionate about and set my mind to. That discovery in and of itself is liberating, empowering and can enable you to break free from people who tell you otherwise. Being around those who support your dreams, share your passions, cheer you on, and encourage your growth is by far one of the most important things you can do for yourself on ANY journey upon which you embark.

With a support system in place you can keep moving forward even when you encounter temporary setbacks. Surround yourself with positive people who bring you joy, who love you for who you are, who will cheer you on every step of the way and even if they don’t share your passion, they understand the importance of living your dream and following your heart.

I know this is sometimes easier said than done; I’ve been there, believe me. It has to be a very conscious decision to not allow negativity to invade your personal boundaries. Shut out the gossip; tune out the “you’ll nevers”, the “you’ve failed befores”, the “odds are against yous” and any other negative talk you may hear. Keep reminding yourself that you CAN, you WILL, you are CAPABLE and you have PASSION. When the turkeys get you down, surround yourself with chickens (or even better…puppies…unconditional love)!

puppiesToday I gathered my confidence and I went to peddle my theatrical services to a local synagogue, and was met with much enthusiasm. I am thrilled and excited at the thought of being able to do what I love, and maybe get a bit of compensation. I know such a program is not in their budget, but it is exactly what this declining congregation needs. I found much of this confidence after accomplishing my weight loss goals. Each goal achieved cultivates your confidence and allows you to challenge yourself in ways you never thought you would. I hope to work with children and adults alike to produce a musical, which will bring their community together in new ways, grow their membership and raise money as well.

None of this would be possible without consciously making the changes to my environment necessary to be happy and stay positive. Take a step towards improving your immediate surroundings and you will see just how much better life can be.


A bit about exercise.  First I want to tell you – although I’ve done a ton of it over the last year and a half or so I STILL HATE IT.  When I am done the endorphins are released, I am in a great mood and feeling wonderful – that is the ONLY saving grace.  It’s a shame sex doesn’t burn as many calories because at least you are having fun during, and get all the same post activity benefits!

Dirty Rotten Scoundrels - Great Big Stuff!
Dirty Rotten Scoundrels – Great Big Stuff!

Since all the rehearsing and then the performances of Dirty Rotten Scoundrels at Rockwall Community Playhouse my schedule changed dramatically, and I could not make it to the gym, nor did I have any energy left to do so.  But, during the show I did a lot of dancing which used different muscles – muscles I had forgotten I had.  I pushed myself even though I am not much of a dancer and pretty much an uncoordinated klutz.  I loved it, and now I think I want to take dance lessons again (I did it as a kid.).  Maybe it will help me be a bit less of an uncoordinated klutz?? Now I just need to get our choreographer to start an adult class at the studio where she teaches. Moving to music seems to make moving easier… hence my enjoyment of Richard Simmons as well.

The key is to find something you enjoy to do when it comes to moving and that when done with some intensity will burn a decent amount of calories if you are trying to drop the pounds.  I don’t really enjoy the gym but know I probably need to go back to stay healthy – it’s not all about weight, but about staying fit as well. Aerobic/cardio movement is very important for your heart and burning calories, but so is strength and resistance training because building muscle helps you burn more calories. Staying fit gives you more energy in general and keeps you healthier.  I firmly believe it boosts both your metabolism (duh!) AND your immune system.  I was not sick once while I stayed working out routinely.

Another key is… IF you are going to join a gym, join one that is VERY close to home.  If you have to travel more than 10 minutes to get to your gym, it’s not likely that you will go with any regularity.  I am very lucky, as we live basically around the corner from an LA Fitness. Having to pass by it every day also helps pour on the guilt of not getting back there – you pay for it… go.  Growing up Jewish, let me tell you… guilt works.

Some people will tell you to not eat before working out and others will tell you to have something in your stomach.  Honestly, I am not sure which answer is best, I think it’s a personal choice. I prefer working out on an empty stomach as there is less chance of feeling sick during or afterwards.  This choice forced me to work out in the morning before starting my day – and I am NOT a morning person.  But, after having forced myself into this routine, mornings have become a bit easier for me now.

Let me share with you the supplements I take on a daily basis which I also think help quite a bit.

  • Biotin (cause my hair and nails are very thin)
  • A women’s multivitamin
  • Calcium + Vitamin D (for bone density)
  • Echinacea & Goldenseal (for my immune system)
  • Probiotics (for digestion)

If you are prone to urinary tract infections I would add a cranberry supplement, and be sure to eat yogurt routinely or add a live culture supplement as well.

I think it always all comes back to staying happy – which makes it easier to stay healthy.  Finding yourself… finding joy in a variety of things, 02 Four Weddings 11 x 17doing them consistently and always giving 110%.  I know that is not practical for most people on a daily basis, but it’s something to strive for.  I’m auditioning for another production… this time a comedy at Rover Dramawerks in Plano, TX.  Even the name of the play is funny: Four Weddings and an Elvis.  There won’t be any dancing, but again it will bring me the joy necessary to continue moving forward as a healthy and happy human being.  I’d ask that you wish me luck, or say “Break a leg!” but given my history that would be something I might actually do.


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