I allowed this sociopath to take so many years of my life. I was a kid, and now as a more fully conscious adult I can take that back. There was a turning point some time ago, when I made the resolution that I would no longer permit Marc Gafni to take anything more from my being, or cause me more pain. It would be much easier to tell everyone who is now in contact with me, or has been over the years; “Sorry, I’ve put that part of my past behind me, and that’s where it has to stay for my own personal preservation, and for my family and loved ones. I’ve moved on.” I certainly understand those in this tangled web who have made just that choice. It is in the past, and I have moved on; I have five wonderful children, a partner who loves me and a supportive family. It will however always be a part of who I am, and I cannot sit back and watch 40 years worth of victims suffer in silence. My story may have been shared first and multiple times over the years, but it certainly will not be the last to be shared. I feel the need to be there, listen and validate anyone this man manipulated, controlled, coerced and/or forced into a submissive relationship, sexual or otherwise. I had so few who were willing listen or believe.
As of today I have heard from three survivors. Each conversation has been over an hour and very cathartic. I know there are more who want, and need to talk. If you are reading this, I am here, I will listen to whatever you are comfortable sharing, and will validate your expression. Leave a brief or detailed comment on my blog with your email and I will return it, you can even remain anonymous should you so choose – you have my word.
With the above being said, unless necessary, or until the journalist publishes his impending article (which I envision as the catalyst for the beginning of his end) I am going back to blogging about weight loss, my creative life, sharing other life events, and other things most of you who have been reading will find rather boring in comparison. But – I do have a life, family, friends and a creative soul with positive things to share and put out into the world. I hope Mordechai Winiarz (aka Marc Gafni) gets everything that’s coming to him, and that karma finally does its job. Like any superhero (to which I honestly do not compare myself), I will be here to help when I am needed, but will resume my true identity, my “Peter Parker” or “Diana Prince” life.